In the last ten years alone, I've had a lot of friends come in and out of my life. Some people are only meant to be in your life for short periods of time, while others stick around for longer. On the other hand, there are some people who shouldn't be in your life at all, and it's important to realize that early on. Some friends show their true colors and surprise you and sometimes those colors aren't too beautiful.
Yesterday I was thinking that at this point in my life my circle of friends consists of all parents It makes sense because we can all relate to each other as we journey through parenthood. It's hard for someone who isn't a parent to connect with me on the same level as someone who is. Plus, people without children are usually not interested to hear about my child or see her latest creation at school.
It's not easy to make friends by any means. Not everyone is open to meeting new people and some are comfortable with who they already have. A friend is someone who listens to you, gives advice when asked, and is generally happy to be in your company. Those are the friends I'm most interested in having. I'm extremely loyal to my friends and really do everything I can to be there for them. I'm generally interested in their life and want to be updated on anything important that happens.
Let's face it though, everyone gets busy from time to time. Families and jobs can take over and social plans sometimes have to be put on the back burner. Don't let too much time pass before you exchange versions of "let's hang out, or let's make plans" over and over and nothing ever comes to fruition. It's important to make time for friends as much as you can. If someone is really interested in being your friend, they will make time for you.
I have a few friends who all get together once a month for dinner. It's nice to have something to look forward to each month, and of course just have a break from everything for a few hours. Dinner and drinks with adult conversation is something I can always go for. I'm lucky that everyone in the group generally enjoys each other's company and we all get along well.
Of course there are some friends in my group that I see more than others, but I know that if I needed anything they'd always be there for me. Don't forget that quality is always better than quantity.
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